I have learned more from animals than any human I have ever studied or worked with. I know all my human teachers, former and current, will agree. This is particularly true about death and dying. I know that losing a beloved animal companions is one of the most difficult things we go through. The unconditional love that we recieve from our animal companions leaves a major hole in our hearts and our lives. It is very hard to let go. It is also very human to grieve. But I can tell you a few things I have learned that might help you through the process….
Animals do not view death as we do. They do not have the same fear of death that most humans do. Humans often have regrets such as; not re-connecting with someone, not having said something to someone, missing a daughter’s wedding, missing a son’s college graduation, missing the birth of grandchild, etc.. Animals do not do this. Animals know where they came from and where they are going. In my experience with animals close to crossing over, they are confident that they will go to sleep and wake up where they are supposed to be. They have no fear, and they are often confused about our profound grief. I have even been asked by one animal, “Why is my human companion so upset? Doesn’t she understand that I can still check on her and be with her where I am"?
I have learned that animals on the other side never question the timing of their death. I am writing this as people often contact me becasue they are feeling guilty about the death process. My training has enabled me to communicate with a companion that has passed. What most deceased animals communicate to me is the love they felt. Many people doubt themselves after losing a loving animal and beat themselves up over what was done; did I euthanize too soon, too late, or should I have (or have not) let my animal die naturally, etc.. None of the above is a concern to our animal companions. They are happy to say how much they love you and are happy to be out of pain, if that was the case.
Euthanizing is one of the hardest things we do. Making the appointment makes us feel like an executioner. If your pet is dying and especially if your pet is in pain, you want to minimize the suffering. Many people put off euthanizing as they, naturally, want to spend as much time as possible with their beloved animal. But, if you wait until “exactly” the right moment, you may spend your last moments with your loved one yelling into the phone at the mobile vet to hurry up & arrive. Or, you may spend your last moments frantically driving to the Vet, a place your pet may hate. Additionally, you may have a long wait for an available Vet. Not a great way to spend your last moments with the animal who has loved you so well. By the time either circumstance happens, the “exact” moment will have passed & now you are in the “I should have done it sooner" mode, as you watch your beloved pet experience suffering that you were trying so hard to avoid. It the hardest thing we can do, but it is the final act of love that we can give to the furry 4 legged that gave us so much love.
I hope this information is helpful. If you would like further assistance or insight, please call/email or text me.